Archive for September 27, 2010

Excuse me   1 comment

I have a small problem….

there is a friend of mine, who over powers me with her need to spend time with me.
I find that seeing her at work doesn’t require a lot of time seeing her outside of work.
We have on occasion gone out to eat or gone over to another co workers for drinks and on and on……

I like this woman but I don’t feel the need to spend time with her outside of work.

I almost feel guilty for feeling this way but…..I am not a big fan of sitting around talking about nothing.
OR gossiping about our coworkers.
She is very quick to judge and to me that is a major turn off.

She emailed me over the weekend and said “Let’s go to lunch tomorrow”
Well I will be working and I will have to get permission from the principal to leave the school for lunch……and while that isn’t such a big deal and I have  never been refused to leave, I just don’t want to be bothered with leaving school and going some where to listen to her talk about other people!
I often wonder what she says about me behind my back?

Am I awful?

I have had this problem before where I had a coworker who wanted more of a friendship than I did.
She thought we needed to see each other every day and even came over at nine thirty-one night to visit.
My kids were young and I had to tell her, I need to put them to bed, now is not a good time for a visit.

I don’t mean to be rude, or a prude….

but ……I need my space.
and this need people have to spend time with me outside of work annoys me.

And while I am on the subject of friends…..I am more of a friend to them than they are to me, because they want to sit and gripe and talk about their problems but aren’t really “There” for me when I want to do the same.


Posted September 27, 2010 by Marge in ramblings